hang ups

Last week I was walking to my car when I spotted one of Mike’s friends, a well-known radio host in Seattle, walking within hollering distance. I knew I could shout out to him and he would turn and head over my way. We would have a short chit chat, say something nice about each other and then part. But instead of saying hello to a very nice man I had met before, I ducked and hid in my car. I slipped on my Jackie-O shades, turned on the ignition and drove away.

I did this because I still had a mega cold sore and I didn’t want to erase that great first impression with a scary, herpes-infected second one. This is something my husband would never do. It’s one of our biggest differences, aside from the 27-year age gap and the fact that when he was born, DINOSAURS RULED THE EARTH!

I have always admired and slightly envied how easygoing my husband is and how he can start a conversation with almost anyone and not once think, “WHY ARE THEY STARING AT MY FACE? IS MY EYE TWITCHING AGAIN?” He never worries if people don’t like him or are treating him a certain way because he’s a Pacific Islander.

A few years ago, when we were living in a two-bedroom apartment, Mike chatted with a guy selling newspaper subscriptions and their conversation wafted through our tiny warren. I could hear them laugh over sports teams and what it was like to live in the Midwest. Soon, the door shut, Mike retreated to the living room and I realized that he had carried on an entire conversation wearing only a thin shirt and boxer shorts.

This ensemble didn’t preclude him from talking to another person. Whenever I leave the house, I have to make sure that I don’t have food stains on my shirt. And if there are food stains, I have to pray that they’re near my chest because my girls need all the attention they can get.

Another time, Mike had to buy cologne so we went to the mall. The sales guy at the cologne counter was so taken with my husband and his knowledge of the Seahawks that not only did Mike get a free leather bag with his purchase, but it was filled with other free schwag like more cologne! I never get free stuff just because someone likes to talk to me. If anything, I get a free escort out of the building from a beefy security guard because I’m using up all the blush samples. Again.

I hope Nathan inherits Mike’s gregarious nature. I hope he never has to strategize how he’ll walk into a room because he’s feeling bloated that day and the pantyhose he bought was too small. Or whatever the male equivalent is. Though, I don’t think he’ll have trouble making friends at all with a face like this:

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  1. grrltraveler says:

    God, he’s soooo cute! Those eyelashes! He’s definitely not going to have any hang ups.

    Honestly, I think the older you get, the less hang ups you’ll have. (Or the less you care, I’m not sure). When I was younger, I used to tell myself that I “didn’t care” what other people thought by I think it was just the opposite. It wasn’t until I quit my job and left to travel the world by myself (34 yrs old) that I realized I could do anything and didn’t care what anyone thought.

    You’ll get there! šŸ™‚

  2. He is SO HANDSOME! What a great smile.

    I love your description of your husband. I am NOT that way, and really admire people who are simply not intimidated by other people. It’s a nice quality.

  3. I want to be his friend RIGHT NOW.

    Paul is like Mike. I am like you.

  4. there’s no way that kid will have any problems with people šŸ™‚

    i’m more like your hubs, i think. i’m not sure if it’s because i’m more oblivious, or what? but it sort of doesn’t occur to me that someone WOULDN’T want to talk to me if we’re in a communal situation. my parents would say it’s because i’ve assumed i’m the center of the universe since i was an infant šŸ™‚

  5. Must be a guy thing…My husband is the same way!

  6. like a library book says:

    Sounds a lot like my husband too. He talks to EVERYONE.

    Seriously, that kid is the cutest damn thing ever !

  7. I totally treat you this way because you’re Pacific Islander.

  8. What a cute boy! I’m like you.

  9. Pickles and Dimes says:

    That last picture killed me dead.

    I’m also like you. Socializing with people I don’t know literally zaps me of all my energy. Jason can talk to anyone.

  10. Anais in Wonderland says:

    Nathan is going to be a ladies man. =)

  11. thecandyqueen says:

    I think your hang ups are totally normal “women” issues. Everyone has them to some degree. I straddle the line between having no fear some days and not wanting to leave the house others.

    Nathan will be fine though cuz he’s a dude. He won’t have as many self-esteem issues…I don’t think.

  12. Jennifer, Playgroups Are No Place For Children says:

    Cute, cute, cute pictures!

    I often hide from people, for a multitude of reasons…usually I just don’t feel like making small talk.

    My husband will practically stalk someone in a store if he thinks he knows the person!

  13. what a sweet face!!

    I find I can chat people up and make them feel comfortable, but I never go out of my way to do so. My husband is a total clam when it comes to social situations … I hope our son gets more of my outgoing personality than his father’s reticent one … but only time will tell!

  14. That is one cute fella!

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